Love Like This

HAPPY GALENTINE’S DAY!!!!!

For those of you who are already confused, I’ll turn it over to Leslie Knope.

“What’s Galentine’s Day? Oh, it’s only the best day of the year. Every February 13th, my lady friends and I leave our husbands and our boyfriends at home, and we just come and kick it, breakfast-style. Ladies celebrating ladies. It’s like Lilith Fair, minus the angst. Plus frittatas. It’s wonderful. And it should be a national holiday.”

Basically, the day before we all celebrate romantic love, you can celebrate other kinds of love with your best buds. Obviously this isn’t just about ladies – anyone can celebrate Galentine’s Day! The main thing to recognize is that it’s just as important as Valentine’s Day. If there’s no romance happening in your life right now, or if you’d rather not spend a whole day fixating on it, February 13th is the perfect way to celebrate love for your closest friends instead. And even if you are super into Valentines Day, that’s cool, too – you’re just adding an entire extra day of love. I mean, what’s better than a day dedicated to hanging out with your besties and telling each other how much you love one another? THATS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT!!!

After leaving high school, I learned that a big part of life is the work and effort that needs to be put into maintaining successful relationships. Mainly, I noticed that since all of my close friends had moved away for college, if I wanted to keep our friendships alive, it was going to take more effort than before. And by experiencing this, I learned that the best friends to have are the ones who you want to make the effort for, and who want to make the effort for you, too.

As I starting stumbling more and more into “adult” life, I also began to understand the importance of removing toxic people from my life. This doesn’t have to mean you create major rifts in your relationships for the sake of getting rid of people you aren’t close to anymore. But rather, I came to terms with the fact that my own personal wellness is greatly affected by the people I spend the most time with. And the best thing you can do is surround yourself with people who make you happy. Find the people who make you feel safe and welcomed, who you trust to always have your best interest at heart, and who bring out your best self.

So for Galentine’s Day, I’m reflecting on all of the amazing friends in my life and how much they mean to me, how much they inspire me, and how much joy they add to my life. When I stop to think about all that my friends have accomplished, I’m so grateful to be able to share it with them. Some of my friends are landing their dream jobs and pursuing grad school. Some are taking time to figure out what their next steps should be. Some are taking on new responsibilities while others are making the world’s greatest grilled cheese, and I couldn’t be more proud of every single one of them.

I’m often labeled as the Mom Friend and I hold that label very close to my heart. I care so deeply about all of my friends. I want them to be happy and I want them to pursue their dreams and I want them to stay hydrated and get enough sleep. Seeing the people you love succeed is one of the most rewarding things ever – not because I had anything to do with it, but because their success is just another piece of their life that I get to be a part of, and with that, our relationships become even more special.

I know I’ve spent this entire post spilling all of my sappy Hufflepuff guts to everyone, but I’ll leave you with one last thing: don’t be afraid to share your love. That’s what you would do with your significant other on Valentine’s Day, right? Why should Galentine’s Day be any different? Today, I encourage all of you beautiful rule breaking moths to celebrate your friendships as loudly as you possibly can. Sometimes it may feel silly to share genuine feelings of gratitude and sincerity with your closest friends once you’ve reached the point in your relationship when your love is understood. But it’s definitely worth it to give those feelings the recognition they deserve. So let’s go spread the love, and most importantly, eat some waffles. Because why would anybody ever eat anything besides breakfast food?

(PS. Visit my Etsy shop for instant downloads of Galentine’s Day cards!)

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Reflection

Happy Monday! I hope you all had a lovely Valentine’s Day. Did you spend time with the one you love? Even if you think the answer is no, that you’re single or not in a relationship or don’t have anyone to spend the day lovin’… think again. It’s you!!!

Over the past couple of months, I have been exploring the practice of self-care. This can mean different things to different people, but ultimately, it’s making sure you spend some time to attend to your personal needs in ways that best benefit you. This could mean mentally, emotionally, physically, or any way you need it. So for Valentine’s Day yesterday, as inspired by the iconic (and unfortunately fictional) Donna Meagle, I decided to treat myself. If you’re not in a relationship with another person – or even if you are – it’s important to take some time to give yourself the love and attention you deserve.

Side note: Two of my favorite YouTubers have videos about self-care that I totally recommend checking out!!

Laci Green- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQvZ_8UhGP8

MarinaShutUp- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zG6jtPrq1g4

Most of us these days are busy. Really busy. Busy AF (once again, for you folks out there who aren’t hip with today’s slang, AF stands for AS FUCK. I’m here to educate.) But it has been proven – by science or something, probably – that taking time for yourself, even if it’s just 15 minutes to unwind, will overall improve the quality of whatever work you’re doing. As for me, considering I am in my final semester of college, I think it’s fair to say I have a lot to stress about. But I took Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to take a break for just one afternoon to do the things that make me happy.

Like I said, self-care is different for everyone. We all don’t enjoy going to art exhibits or sporting events when we want to have a good time, and we all don’t hate exercise (I know, it’s hard to believe). But that’s what makes taking this time for yourself so important. You have no one to appease but you, so it’s an opportunity to really consider what your needs are and what you can do to best attend to them. For me, self-care might include activities such as doing yoga, taking naps, trying a new makeup routine and taking selfies, or ordering Seamless. Sometimes I’ll go for a run. Sometimes I’ll draw in a coloring book, or read, or write. Those are things I love to do and things I don’t always have the time for in my busy schedule, but when it comes to taking care of myself, I know I need to make the time. And don’t get me wrong, I understand the value of getting stuff done and challenging yourself and working hard for what you want, but when that becomes detrimental at the expense of your well being, that’s when it’s time to check in.

And just because Valentine’s Day is over doesn’t mean you’ve missed your opportunity for self-love. Self-care is something that is important all year round, especially during those times when there is so much pressure to be spending this time and energy on someone else. Caring for and loving another person is wonderful, but you should never forget to TREAT YO SELF. (Was this blog written by Donna Meagle herself? It’s a possibility.)

Don’t be scared to practice self-care. It’s not narcissistic or cocky to care about yourself. Just because you think you deserve to feel great doesn’t mean you’re denying others their chance to feel great, too. Find what works for you. Need to drink more water? Want to try meditating for 10 minutes before starting your day? Thinking about learning a new hobby, like knitting or golf or crafting? Try new things and figure out what you love to do, and most importantly, make sure to set aside some time to do it. While being busy, it may be hard to convince yourself to slow down. But if you find the right practices, I guarantee it will be worth it.