Do The Work

Of course I’m writing a “get ready for 2018” post. For those of you who didn’t already guess this was going to happen…hi, my name is Jessica, and thank you for reading my stuff for the very first time.

This past year, my main mantra was “be present”. I’m approaching the two year mark of when I first started practicing meditation, and focusing on the present is one of the main skills you are encouraged to work on in your practice. And during a year that was so unpredictable, I found it much more rewarding to devote my attention to the present moment and take things one day at a time rather than try to guess what would be happening in the future.

The first step in starting this new practice was recognizing the difference between a goal and an intention. While a goal is more likely to be something you can cross off your list, an intention is the manner in which you get these things done. Someone once described an intention to me as the compass you use on your way toward your goal. This doesn’t necessarily mean there are foolproof methods to getting where you want to be, but intentions can be reminders of how we want to show up in every moment that gets us closer to our goal, or even more simply, whenever we need some guidance.

So I made small changes over the past year to allow myself to place my mind in the present more regularly. I tried not to live through the screen of my phone to capture every moment so I could share in on my Instagram story. (Although, I often have really great Instagram stories. Do you follow me on Instagram? You should follow me on Instagram.) I didn’t completely shut out social media, but I made a conscious effort to remove any expectations from my mind and rather look at the moments of my life for what they truly were, and finding enjoyment in that. It was, and still is, a super difficult task. It’s something I’m going to be working on my entire life.

For 2018, I’m still very focused on the importance of pausing to recenter myself and experience the truth of the moment. But after the year we’ve all just endured, it’s safe to say we might not always want to accept the truth of the moment, because it’s likely to be some sort of garbage. And while you don’t necessarily need to equate being present with being happy, it sure would be great for those two things to line up, right?

So I’m shifting my focus a bit for the upcoming year. In the meditation class I took on New Year’s Eve, we took some time to contemplate the intention of discipline. This has been one of my go-to intentions when I’m frustrated about not getting something accomplished, but it has also been difficult to digest because of the harsh connotation that comes with the word discipline. There’s an association with punishment and being hard on yourself, which definitely isn’t something any of us want to do voluntarily. I’ve often tried to soften the idea of this intention by reframing it as “gentle discipline”, but more often than not, that just leads to an easier way out when facing potentially uncomfortable limits.

In class that day, our meditation instructor made an important distinction about the intention of discipline that struck me, and I had one of those great moments when things all came together like pieces of a puzzle that I didn’t even know I needed to assemble.

Discipline doesn’t necessarily have to be something that is met with discomfort. It doesn’t have to mean that you’re doing something wrong that needs to be fixed. Instead, we can consider discipline as a means to getting closer to your goal, or closer to something that makes you happy, that makes you both satisfied and accomplished. For example, not all of us may enjoy going to the gym, but when we finally get there and finish a workout, we’re likely to delight in our ability to have done the thing, despite the struggle. So rather than saying “I need to go to the gym or else I will fail at completing this goal I set for myself,” you can shift that thinking to say “I need to go to the gym because I want to feel the satisfaction of following through with my plan and come out on the other side successful. Plus, endorphins make you happy and hell yeah, I want to be happy.” It’s easier said than done, but it’s a practice. It’s an intention. It might not always work the way you want it to, but making the effort is half the battle. Some might even argue making the effort is the entire battle. I’ll leave that up to you.

Last year I saw the show Prince of Broadway, a revue that showcased the work of Broadway producer Hal Prince. (This is relevant, I promise). After sharing highlights from Prince’s career and all he has accomplished, there was a final song called “Do The Work” about reminding yourself that while there is definitely a great deal of luck associated with success, in order to get to that point, you have to – you guessed it – do the work. I still think about that song when I want to be inspired, and when presented with this new perspective on the intention of discipline, everything seemed to click together. Now if they would just release that cast recording…

So without further ado, let’s gear up for another year that is bound to be difficult and unpredictable at times. But if we do the work, perhaps we can make it something worth celebrating. I’m rooting for you.


My experience at MNDFL Meditation

For about a year now, I’ve been exploring a lot of new ways to practice self-care. Last summer, I got really into yoga and went to classes twice a week. When I moved back to the city in the fall, I took advantage of the new neighborhood I was living in and starting running outside along the East River. And finally, last winter, I was introduced to MNDFL Meditation. Before going to MNDFL for the first time, I didn’t even know there were facilities exclusively for meditating. As I’m sure goes for most people, all I knew about meditation was the cliched image of someone sitting alone in a room with incense burning and long periods of complete silence. And as somebody like myself with the absolute worst attention span, I never considered being able to participate in such an activity. But thankfully, MNDFL was quick to prove me wrong.

From the warm and welcoming staff to the open and inviting decor of the space, I always feel comfortable the moment I step in the door at MNDFL, located on 8th St. in the village. I don’t know about you, but anywhere that requires you NOT to wear shoes and gives out free tea is somewhere you can definitely find me spending my free time. Additionally, one of my favorite features of MNDFL is the staff, who are just as dedicated to their visitors whether it’s your first or fiftieth class. In the middle of the space, there is a sitting area where all of the visitors are welcome to hang out before or after class, which most people choose to do. The simple gesture of providing this space really adds to the fact that MNDFL genuinely feels like a community. I’ve never felt any awkward pressure to make time-filling conversation with others, but after attending classes for a while, almost all of the people there are familiar faces and chatting began happening more naturally. Sometimes people take this time before class to read a magazine, or even close their eyes to start winding down before we even step into the room to begin practice. As for me, I’m usually burning my tongue on jasmine green tea and feeling too satisfied when I turn off my phone.


Classes at MNDFL range from 30 to 45 minutes and are guided by an instructor. There are a number of different instructors at the space, all with different styles and preferences for how to conduct their classes. While you can sign up for classes based on their time, day of the week, or difficulty, you can also choose the theme you will experience at your specific class. Some of the themes for classes at MNDFL include breath, emotions, heart, sleep, and many others. It is definitely worth trying out a bunch of different classes and instructors to see which you like best, and the great thing about MNDFL is that there are so many options that you are likely to find a few that work best for you. And what’s even more inviting is that no two classes are the same. Even if you take the same class with the same instructor more than once, they are always new experiences. This happens, I think, because of the community at MNDFL. People are encouraged to actively participate in the class however they feel most comfortable, the instructors leave time at the end of the class for questions and discussions, and one of the most important messages they send is that there is no wrong way to experience meditation. Of course there are tips for achieving certain goals and better understanding mindfulness, but the instructors are always the first ones to assure you that however you are doing it is the right way.


MNDFL is exactly what it claims to be: a space to breathe. I don’t think there is a single person who doesn’t experience too much stress on a weekly basis, and MNDFL is the perfect place to let that go. After treating myself to their monthly pass (the first month is only $50 for as many classes as you want!), I knew that I needed to make meditation a priority, especially at this space. Even as I’m now living in Jersey City, working a 9-5 job, and trying to get used to my new busy schedule, I know I can always manage to find half an hour out of my day to visit MNDFL. It’s an incredibly rewarding experience and the perfect way for you to invest in yourself.

PS. Let me know if you try out a class!!! I want to know all about it 🙂