Happy Monday! I hope you all had a lovely Valentine’s Day. Did you spend time with the one you love? Even if you think the answer is no, that you’re single or not in a relationship or don’t have anyone to spend the day lovin’… think again. It’s you!!!
Over the past couple of months, I have been exploring the practice of self-care. This can mean different things to different people, but ultimately, it’s making sure you spend some time to attend to your personal needs in ways that best benefit you. This could mean mentally, emotionally, physically, or any way you need it. So for Valentine’s Day yesterday, as inspired by the iconic (and unfortunately fictional) Donna Meagle, I decided to treat myself. If you’re not in a relationship with another person – or even if you are – it’s important to take some time to give yourself the love and attention you deserve.
Side note: Two of my favorite YouTubers have videos about self-care that I totally recommend checking out!!
Laci Green- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQvZ_8UhGP8
Most of us these days are busy. Really busy. Busy AF (once again, for you folks out there who aren’t hip with today’s slang, AF stands for AS FUCK. I’m here to educate.) But it has been proven – by science or something, probably – that taking time for yourself, even if it’s just 15 minutes to unwind, will overall improve the quality of whatever work you’re doing. As for me, considering I am in my final semester of college, I think it’s fair to say I have a lot to stress about. But I took Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to take a break for just one afternoon to do the things that make me happy.
Like I said, self-care is different for everyone. We all don’t enjoy going to art exhibits or sporting events when we want to have a good time, and we all don’t hate exercise (I know, it’s hard to believe). But that’s what makes taking this time for yourself so important. You have no one to appease but you, so it’s an opportunity to really consider what your needs are and what you can do to best attend to them. For me, self-care might include activities such as doing yoga, taking naps, trying a new makeup routine and taking selfies, or ordering Seamless. Sometimes I’ll go for a run. Sometimes I’ll draw in a coloring book, or read, or write. Those are things I love to do and things I don’t always have the time for in my busy schedule, but when it comes to taking care of myself, I know I need to make the time. And don’t get me wrong, I understand the value of getting stuff done and challenging yourself and working hard for what you want, but when that becomes detrimental at the expense of your well being, that’s when it’s time to check in.
And just because Valentine’s Day is over doesn’t mean you’ve missed your opportunity for self-love. Self-care is something that is important all year round, especially during those times when there is so much pressure to be spending this time and energy on someone else. Caring for and loving another person is wonderful, but you should never forget to TREAT YO SELF. (Was this blog written by Donna Meagle herself? It’s a possibility.)
Don’t be scared to practice self-care. It’s not narcissistic or cocky to care about yourself. Just because you think you deserve to feel great doesn’t mean you’re denying others their chance to feel great, too. Find what works for you. Need to drink more water? Want to try meditating for 10 minutes before starting your day? Thinking about learning a new hobby, like knitting or golf or crafting? Try new things and figure out what you love to do, and most importantly, make sure to set aside some time to do it. While being busy, it may be hard to convince yourself to slow down. But if you find the right practices, I guarantee it will be worth it.